You have to love yourself, there is nothing better you can do for your mental and emotional health. Love your body, love your mind, love your personality. When you do love yourself completely, people will recognize this, and therefore be attracted to your confidence and strength.
Don't be afraid and avoid the struggles that you have faced. Sometimes writing these experiences down helps get past them, even if it is difficult to see how you have grown stronger as a person from them. Overcoming the bad in your life is a main step to being happy. You have to see that just like Newton's law, for every negative reaction, there is a positive one.
Sometimes it feels like you are experiencing something that no one has gone through. This can be true, but even so, there will always be people to help support you. You just have to let down some of your pride and ask for it. In a group of 100 people, 67 of them would rather suffer than admit to being weak. It doesn't have to be that way. You are not alone.
Sometimes our worst enemy is ourselves. We think negative thoughts, so we have negative actions and body language. We all love to complain, but never want to listen to others. Sometimes people join in to make you feel as if they are connecting to you, but really they are just becoming negative themselves. It is hard to be friends and care about someone who does not recognize the good they have in their lives, aka, you. Let's stop being Debbie Downers.
Laughter is the best medicine. It can be hard at times to find anything funny when you are upset, so you just have to fake it. Laugh for no reason, smile at the paint on your walls. Close your eyes and think of a tropical location. Sometimes you can be a little crazy, I find that saying Irish wristwatches 3x fast makes me giggle a little when things seem bad.
Music can be a relief too. You just have to know what to listen to. When I am feeling really mellow and sad, I try listening to Mika or maybe some M.I.A. I listen to upbeat music about happy things, or maybe just something I can get up and dance to. I don't listen to sappy love songs, because I know that will just make me stay in that frame of mind. Prolonging the feeling only makes it worse, even though it is very easy to do.
When you are sad, staying alone by yourself is probably the worst thing you can do. You do not feel social, but being with people will help. I have made this mistake of staying angry or sad all alone, and then finally giving in to going out later. It definitely made me feel better to be around people that care about me.
You can't dwell on not being in a relationship/dating. You have to love your friends. They are the people that you will stick with through life if you both stay true to each other. My friends are the people in my life that make me smile when I wake up in the morning. I know how lucky I am to have them, and only wish that I can be that for them.
If you are in a relationship, embrace it. Fall in love, don't hold back. It's the greatest thing you will ever experience. I'm not saying become dependent of someone, because you always need to have the power to make it on your own without them. Make sure that the other person knows how you feel. Be completely honest, respect their opinions, and have fun. It's great to know when someone really cares about you.
Happiness is contagious, and also something you can share. Sometimes it is easy to make someone's day, even if maybe all you are saying is a simple, " Your hair looks good today!". Everyone loves a compliment or two. Throw them out there, don't get carried away and lie, but if you can, share your smile please. Sometimes hugs can be a way to share your smile too, I sure know that they make my day brighter. Seriously, watch this video...
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Share your success stories. Sometimes the good things you do for people inspire others to do so also.
You are special, you are unique. You have something that people love. Don't be afraid to open that up to the world. Meet new people. Share what you have to offer. Be crazy, don't worry about what people think of you. Those who don't like you aren't worth it anyways.
I know that sometimes you just can't get past the frowns, past the tears, past the sadness at the moment, but yes, things will look up. This will not happen by itself, you have to take the lead, and try to see the silver lining. You have to take the initiative to stop the pain in it's tracks, and love life.
If you don't love your life now, you are going to look back in twenty years and ask yourself why you weren't living. Living means being alive with no regrets, being appreciative to what you have, and giving it your all to achieve happiness.
Take a step back and realize that life is not perfect. We do not live in Utopia's where we land on feathers when we fall. The thing to remember is that there is someone out there who can help, who loves you, who wants you to live a more fulfilled life. You may not see this now, but someday you will.
We all have heard the expression, " Live life as if you were dying", but I believe that we should live life like we are alive. There is nothing better you can do.
I release the past. I let go of fear. I let go of hurt. I let go of anger.
I embrace the present. i keep good memories on file. I show off my smile. I keep getting stronger. I see past those negative aspects of my life.
The easiest thing you can do for someone else is sharing this with them.
